The Journey through change and transformation
As a Integrative empowerment coach for women I’ve heard it over and over again… ” How do I make LASTING Changes in my life”.
” I’ve tried therapy, coaching , medication , yoga etc..But I keep falling back into my old patterns.”
My message is one most don’t want to hear, change takes time and repeated practice. Recognizing your patterns is a fantastic first step, but awareness alone isn’t enough ( sadly ).
Creating lasting change is a journey , a journey of self discovery , and a commitment to the process.
That’s where we usually fall off the wagon , is in the commitment process. Most of the time we want to change but we don’t actually want to do the work or put in the time to really make it work.
This is why it feels so challenging to really shift from where we are to where we want to be.
Getting coaching, seeing a therapist, taking medication, doing yoga etc.. are great stepping stones and building blocks that help you on your journey, but in order for them to really really work you’ve got to be willing to commit to them. Your coach cannot solve all your problems for you, they can help you get clarity on whats blocking you from your full potential , but then you’ve got to be willing to work on letting go of that block once you know what it is.
Therapy can help you heal old wounds from your past and start being able to get your head above water , but your therapist is only able to go so far with you, you are the one whom needs to take the next step.
Medication is a great way to diminish systems that might be keeping you feeling trapped in a place that’s too hard to get out of alone, but meds alone are only going to go so far. Addressing the underlying issues that are perhaps causing these symptoms to arise is where the healing journey really starts to take place.
Yoga is a fantastic practice for opening up the body and mind and discovering new depths of connection to your body and soul. But doing enough yoga isn’t going to eradicate all your pain.
The healing journey is always a journey that begins and ends with you.
Healing is a ever evolving and moving target. It is the journey of the soul in this lifetime, it is life itself. Change isn’t something we wake up and get done in a week, it’s a process of unfolding and exploring ourselves on deeper and deeper levels.
No one person can change you , or heal you , or “fix” you. If you are not open to touching those places inside that might feel a bit scary to tap into , then the work will remain undone.
To decide to change, to break out of habits, patterns, and addictions takes courage plan and simple.
If change was easy we would have all changed everything about ourselves and our lives we don’t like many many years ago. Transformation can feel daunting, overwhelming , and confusing.
We can become so attached to our story of who we are ( even if it’s painful) because it’s what we know. Change can mean letting go of parts of our identity and that can feel super scary if you’re not ready.
This is where coaching , therapy etc.. come in as a way to help you on your journey and create a safe space to explore this process without feeling lost at sea. But the work always remains firmly in your hands.
As the quote from Einstein goes ” The definition of insanity is doing things in the same way over and over again and expecting different results.”
If we want to create change and healing in our lives first the willingness to go through what that will require of us must be present. Being willing to learn how to approach things from a new be it unfamiliar mindset. Most of us will spend the rest of our lives blaming other people for who we are and what are problems are. I’m not here to blame you or say ” it’s all your fault”, but I am here to help people take responsibility for their own lives. To own the power they possess , to recognize that you are responsible for your own life is extremely empowering.
My end note is this: Change is not a overnight process, the power to truly create the life you want lies in your hands, you don’t have to go it alone but the journey is always yours to take. Power comes with owning your responsibility for creating your life and the power you have to change it is always there waiting for you to tap into it. It is NEVER TO LATE TO CREATE THE LIFE YOU WANT.
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